Leaving dogs alone: Training with separation anxiety

Dogs are pack animals so it’s no surprise that being alone is not in their nature. But don’t worry, dogs can learn to stay alone with a bit of help from you. Read on to find out how to train your dog to remain calm and happy when home alone.

Popping out to the shops, a doctor’s appointment, or visiting a friend with a dog hair allergy? These are all situations where your dog cannot join you – regardless of how well trained they are. That’s why it’s vital for your dog to learn to stay alone.

Why are dogs scared of staying alone?

Dogs descend from wolves, which are well-known pack animals. Wolves work together, be it with hunting or rearing their young. No animal is left alone – only sick and weak animals that can no longer aid the pack are left behind.

Our dogs still maintain this instinct, whether more or less deep-seated. So it isn’t surprising that dogs don’t like to be left alone.

Separation anxiety or loss of control?

The level of anxiety individual dogs experience when home alone can vary a lot. And there isn’t always one simple answer regarding the source of anxiety. Dogs are individuals and just like humans, they are formed differently and have different experiences and character traits.

Nevertheless, canine anxiety of being left alone can generally be traced back to one of the following two main causes:

1. Separation anxiety
2. Fear of loss of control

Fear of being alone

Dogs suffering from separation anxiety are actually scared of being alone. They feel helpless and abandoned without their owner.

In contrast, the concern with dogs with a loss of control is that their owner cannot cope without them. They feel that they have to protect and watch out for them. If their owner sets off without them, they cannot perform this task and feel worried or annoyed about it.

What can I do to help my dog?

The training described below primarily focuses on overcoming a dog’s separation anxiety and fear of being alone. If your dog’s issues stem from a ‘loss of control’, it’s recommended to start somewhere different. In this case, your dog first has to learn that you are the leader of the household pack.

If your dog is suffering from a loss of control, professional help is often needed. Experienced dog trainers or psychologists can help you to recognise and overcome the problem.

How does fear of staying alone manifest itself in dogs?

Fear of staying alone in dogs can manifest in several different ways.

Whilst some dogs bark loudly and howl, run restlessly or even destroy furniture, other dogs suffer in silence. They withdraw, refuse to eat, sleep, and at most whimper gently.

Recognising your dog’s body language and vocalisations is very helpful with treatment to overcome separation anxiety. Some experts advise setting up a pet camera with video function and observing how your dog behaves when left alone.

The video can provide useful information, and help identify the causes of your dog’s fear of being alone.

Why is it important for your dog to learn to stay alone?

Dogs suffering from separation anxiety are under huge stress. Simply never leaving them alone isn’t a solution, and almost impossible in our day-to-day life. Calling the dog-sitter every time you have to nip to the supermarket? That just isn’t practical.

For humans and dogs to live together in harmony, dogs need to understand that they cannot follow their owners everywhere. The calmer your dog reacts towards your absence, the more relaxed you can be about your commitments too.

How long can dogs stay at home alone?

Regardless of how calmly your dog behaves, leaving them alone for a whole day whilst you work is too long. Dogs need a social environment in order to feel at ease.

So how long exactly should you be able to leave your dog alone? It depends! Dogs are unique individuals and there is no standard answer to how long they can stay on their own. As a general guideline, many UK dog charity organizations recommend not leaving any dog alone for more than four hours a day.

Think about your dog’s needs

Whilst some dogs will start barking as soon as their owner reaches for their car keys, others only become restless after being alone for a few hours. However, the limit for all dogs should be no more than four or five hours. By this point, most dogs will need to go outside to relieve themselves.

Regardless of how calmly your dog behaves, the fundamental rule is that they should not be left alone for several hours every day. Very anxious and sensitive dogs can even fall ill or develop depression if they are left alone too often. A dog-sitter or dog-sharing arrangement can help in this case.

The best time for training dogs to stay alone

The saying ‘practice makes perfect’ is certainly true regarding your dog learning to stay alone. If dogs learn as early as the puppy phase that it is absolutely normal for their owner to go out for a short time without them, this will remain normal for them even as adults.

Find out in our article Leaving puppies alone how to train puppies to spend time alone.

Training with adult dogs

The good news is that even adult dogs can learn to stay on their own. The bad news is that training generally takes much longer. But your patience will pay off and even at an advanced age, your dog will still be grateful to you if they can stay on their own without feeling stress and anxiety.

Learning is better when stimulated

The best condition in which to teach your dog something new is when they are physically and mentally stimulated. If your dog is insufficiently challenged and bored, they won’t be receptive and will barely be able to follow your training.

Before starting with the following exercises, you should make sure that your dog is stimulated and satisfied. This works best when you spend a lot of time with and play with your dog beforehand. Take your pup for a walk, do search and retrieval games and ensure that they have worn themselves out enough.

How long does training last?

Depending on the age of your dog and how strong their anxiety of being alone is, you may have to calculate several weeks for the training described above.

Sometimes the first signs of success can be seen after two weeks, whilst other times it takes six to eight weeks for an improvement. In principle, young dogs learn quicker than adult dogs, but even adult dogs are capable of learning!

When do I need help from experts?

If you don’t see any progress being made after two to three months despite regular practice, it can be helpful to take expert advice. Vets, animal psychologists, and dog trainers are good points of contact.

Perhaps there is more behind this fear of being alone than you think? Sometimes traumatic past experiences can lead to separation anxiety, which you can only overcome with professional help.

Conclusion: Every dog can learn to stay alone

Every dog (regardless of age) can learn to stay alone with the right training and plenty of patience. Don’t give up hope if progress seems slow. Continue practicing slowly and consistently – even if your dog struggles with being alone at first.

Just be careful that you don’t overdo it with training by focusing too much on quick success. If you notice that your dog is overwhelmed, it’s best to take one or two steps back in training. You will see that in the end, your patience will pay off!